Life is never simple. It throws up so many surprises that sometimes one is just left astounded. But knowing full well that it is in constant motion, we are changing right along side it. Staying with the cosmic rhythm creates a harmony entirely of its own. Change is the only constant, though it does create a fear that is followed by unhappiness.

That may be so because all of us crave sameness, a certain comfort level so to speak. Something that would only cause strife if life ever got stagnant.Our lives could actually spin out of control if we did not balance them, for life is known to move on. Change is of two kinds – one that happens to us, and the other that we make happen.

The differences are subtle and we understand that the ones that we make ourselves bring us more happiness. Whether we love change or we hate change, we are challenged by it for sure. We all wish that we could live in a place of peace all the time. There are high-risk people and low-risk people. I myself am a medium-risk person. I am a lover of everything new, from fashion, art, music, and places, to ideas, and food. But not new friends.

There I stick to the old, and comfort comes first. Paragliding and skydiving are still on a to-do list. I have often been self indulgent and thrown caution to the winds, but I do know that though I take those risks, and I love change, I am still a calculated risk taker.

And then there are the risk averse people, who probably live all that much longer, but are they really alive? We all know people like these, who refuse to try unfamiliar cuisine, never travel out of their homes, buy the same colors, wear the same styles and are suspicious of every living soul. So could we safely ask that though they make fewer mistakes, have they ever felt ecstatic about anything?

That does not mean we have to do the complete opposite, climbing mountains with a vengeance, driving over speed limits, having multiple affairs, trying drugs etc. A lot of highrisk behavior is caused by testosterone, not necessarily meaning that only men are high risk here, since women can be highly wired too.

We all go through life like nomads in a desert, carrying everything we need, and then suddenly when the landscape changes and we need to climb a mountain on the way, we panic, for we realize that’s uncharted territory. So also with life, we look for maps, make changes, make new rules and continue on the trek.

Our expectations are so much part of our inherited ideas. We all think that our kids will want the same lives as ours, not realizing that our ideas would get outdated with our age. Core values should be a constant but somewhere, revaluation is needed. All along the way we need people that are known as pathfinders, for that we have to read, look and listen. Either dead or living, they go on to becoming.